There might be a lot of communication issues when you are dating someone from abroad. The task especially complicated when both of you, have just the basic knowledge of each others’ languages. Men, who are planning to travel to Ukraine to find their Ukrainian bride, often consider if they should also start learning the Ukrainian language. Of course, it is a brilliant idea. On the other hand, you have to take into consideration that this is very hard and time-consuming and you should be sure that you want to commit to it.
The level of English skills varies among generations
The most basic rule is – the younger the woman, the higher is the probability that she will speak good English. The parents of the children born in the 90-s, were very eager to teach their kid a foreign language, because after the collapse of the Soviet Union, everybody was hoping for the better future of their children. Many parents sent their kids to the private tutors, in hope that they will learn the language and take advantage of the better careers in the Ukraine and working opportunities abroad. Ukrainian girls, who did not have this kind of parents, had to rely on the school system. Which means that if the singles that you meet, are from the bigger cities, their knowledge of English is usually better. The ones who come from rural areas might have more poor English skills. Anyway, if you are looking to start dating a younger Ukrainian lady, then there are quite decent chances that she will speak some English. However, if you would like to meet a Ukrainian woman who is 40+ years old, then the language might be a more serious issue. There are some couples who can do all their communication in the beginning phase of the relationship with the means of modern technology and translation software, but later on it makes more sense if one of you gets better at the foreign language.
Should you learn Ukrainian or help her learn English?
This really depends on which one of you is a better language learner. Apparently there are some people for whom learning a new language is a blast and some who struggle a lot. If you both are on the same level of learning each others’ language, you should probably see which one would show a faster progress. It also depends on who would have more time for that. Because then, the one having more spare time could commit more time for learning the language and the progress will be faster. If English is not your native language and you bride from Ukraine has no English skill at all, then you should see, if it will be easier for her to learn your native language or learn English. On the other hand, learning English always gives a person more opportunities to communicate internationally and it is a rather easy language to learn. Just because of this, you should insist that your wife will learn the language. But if you have a smallest bit of talent towards the languages then you should show out solidarity and try to learn at least some Ukrainian.
The advantages of knowing Ukrainian
There are still a couple of reasons, why learning Ukrainian can be a good thing for you. First of all, Ukrainian ladies like to see your effort. For a woman it means that she is important for you and your intentions are serious. Secondly, if you are planning on creating a family and having children with a Ukrainian woman, then you might want to understand the language that your wife and your children would speak. Of course, to raise perfectly bilingual children, you have to speak to them only in your own language, and the mother should speak Ukrainian not to teach the wrong pronunciation and the accent. But it is still weird if you do not have a slightest idea of what your family members are talking about between each other, if they are using the other language. Thirdly, even if you will know some basics of Ukrainian, it can still be very helpful to your significant other, when she is trying to express herself and not finding the right words in English.
Some challenges of learning Ukrainian
The possibility to find a good teacher of Ukrainian will vary depending on where you live. It is much easier to find a teacher of Russian. Whether it will equally work for you really depends on the case. For some Ukrainians, especially for those from the East, Russian can be the primary language in the family. Then you can start learning Russian. If you are more of an independent learner, then is a plenty of learning programs available online and in the stores for both Ukrainian and Russian languages. Some of them are even free. You can easily learn the basics on your own, and later look for a tutor or a course. You have to keep in mind that if you want to achieve full proficiency of Ukrainian in speaking, reading and writing, it can take you up to decade. It will depend a lot on how fast and intensive is your learning.
As a conclusion we can say, that learning Ukrainian is not that easy thing unless you are excited about the foreign languages. A lot of men are putting more effort into teaching a foreign language to their Ukrainian wives. However, it does not hurt if you try to learn at least something. It will definitely put a smile on your beloved woman’s face.